New Year, New Me? Nah

I’ve never been one for New Year’s Resolutions tbh. Most of the time it involved losing some amount of weight if I did make one, but about 5 years ago I completely stopped making these “resolutions” for change. I mean, what was SO bad about the previous year that I needed to make changes? We gain weight, we don’t always live our healthiest lives, sometimes we might not make the best decisions for ourselves or hold unimportant things in a high priority position in our lives, but why wait for the new year?

I’m all about improvisational change as it presents itself to me, but I don’t make resolutions under the ruse of “needing” to change myself. I love who I am. Things I don’t love about myself I change on a case by case basis when it becomes a priority to me. For example last June I was really unhappy in my marriage. Was it hard to seperate before the holiday season? Fuck yes. Did that stop me? No.

Point being: we shouldn’t be afraid to dive in head first as soon as the want for change presents itself. We shouldn’t set unrealistic expectations for ourselves at the beginning of each new year. We should openly embrace the changes and goals we want to accomplish as soon as they pop into our brilliant minds. I do firmly believe that complacency is the root of all evil and that we should always be striving to be the absolute best versions of ourselves. However, I love me, and I love what I bring to the table. I don’t feel the need to change to get someone to like me more, and I don’t think that changing anything will make me like me more. I think I’m great the way I am but the more I do things that push me out of my comfort zone, the more I’ll evolve or “level-up” to achieve what I’m here for.

I’ve got goals for 2019, but don’t feel the need to share them because they are personal to ME, and I don’t like the idea of anyone comparing their goals to anyone else’s. What’s right for me isn’t right for everyone in the world. What applies to my life and my health won’t apply to everyone else. In 2019 I want to be happy, and that’s the only common goal we can all share.

This gorgeous dress from Simply Dresses was gifted to me for promotional purposes. It was the perfect thing to start 2019 in. Photos by Nikki A Hall.